Mediation is a process in which a neutral third party helps family members discuss their differences and try to reach an agreement. In Singapore, mediation plays a central role in family disputes particularly in divorce cases involving children and is often encouraged, and sometimes required, before matters proceed to a contested hearing. It focuses on practical, workable outcomes rather than on one side “winning”.
The essentials:
- Family mediation is a voluntary discussion facilitated by a trained mediator, aimed at helping parties reach agreement.
- For divorcing parents with at least one child below 21, mediation and counselling sessions are mandatory and are arranged through the Family Justice Courts at no cost.
- Any agreement reached can be recorded as an order of court, making it binding.
- If agreement is not reached, the unresolved issues can still be decided by the court.
Why mediation is used in family matters
Family disputes are often ongoing relationships rather than one-off transactions , especially where children are involved and parents will continue to co-parent. In the Family Justice Courts, the Therapeutic Justice Cooperative Conference (TJCC) is where the judge identifies the key issues, explains the expected standards of conduct, discusses possible solutions, considers referrals to support services where appropriate, and charts the next steps in the case. These sessions are designed to help parties communicate, understand each other’s concerns, and find arrangements they can both live with. It can be less adversarial than a contested hearing and can help preserve a working relationship between the parties.
Common issues addressed in family mediation include child custody, care and control, access arrangements, and aspects of financial matters such as maintenance.
When mediation is mandatory
In Singapore, divorcing couples who have at least one child below the age of 21 are required to attend mediation and counselling. These sessions are conducted through the Family Justice Courts’ processes and are aimed at helping parents focus on their children’s best interests and build a sustainable parenting arrangement. Parties are notified formally and attend at no cost.
The aim is to encourage parents to reach agreement on child-related issues cooperatively rather than leaving every decision to a contested hearing.
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What happens in a mediation session
While each case differs, mediation generally involves:
- a neutral mediator guiding the discussion
- an opportunity for each party to be heard
- exploration of possible options and compromises and
- where agreement is reached, a written record that can be made into a court order.
Mediation is generally conducted on a without-prejudice basis, which means discussions are aimed at settlement and are treated confidentially in that context.
If agreement cannot be reached
Mediation does not remove a person’s right to have their matter decided by the court. If the parties cannot agree on some or all issues, those issues can proceed to be determined through the divorce court process. In many cases, mediation still helps narrow the areas of disagreement, even where it does not resolve everything.
Preparing for family mediation
Parties often find it helpful to think through their priorities in advance particularly what arrangement would work for the children day to day , and to gather any relevant information. Some choose to obtain legal advice before or during the process so they understand their position and options.
Key takeaways
Mediation is a core part of resolving family disputes in Singapore, and it is mandatory for divorcing parents with a child below 21. It offers a structured, less adversarial way to reach agreement, with any settlement capable of being made a binding court order. Where agreement cannot be reached, the court remains available to decide the outstanding issues.
This article is for general information only and does not constitute legal advice. For advice on your family situation, please consult a qualified family lawyer in Singapore.
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